Some News

Exactly 1 year, 3 months, and 3 days to the day from graduating, I finally got an offer for a full-time job. I’m still working at my alma mata, but in a different department and in the Financial District of New York City. It’s a lot of writing (including interviewing!), which is right up my alley, and also database and repository system¬†maintenance, which is what I do in my current position and started in my previous ones from when I was a student worker.¬†Words alone cannot describe how grateful and wonderful I feel inside. Like yes, finalmente, I did it!

I start the life of a city commuter, something some have warned me about but I always dreamed of, after Labor Day. I also gave my notice to my bosses after finding out; its a bittersweet feeling. While I’m happy to at last go full-time and begin my career writing and downtown, I’ll miss everyone in the Westchester office and working in HR. I literally grew up in this department, starting off as a doe-eyed student transforming into the successful woman I am today. Plus its been an amazing, positive, and inspiring environment, both in Briarcliff and Valhalla. Lucky for myself and my co-workers, we’ll still be in touch, both as I transition into this full-time role and become benefits eligible (you bet I’m going back to school to get my master’s as soon as I can!) and as we become/remain “cubicle mates,” since some of my co-workers also commute into the city on certain days (and some are there full-time), and the HR area is right next to all the Alumni Relations departments.

For the next two weeks, I’m continuing my normal work, and also getting together as much information as I can for my successor. I’ll also begin cleaning up, which is funny how I’m downsizing for my moving into a new home and now also moving into a new job, and enjoying the last few Mondays I have off.

Remember, it’s not the end — its only the beginning.

A Post Grad Trying to Get into Entertainment’s Lament

Many of you know my struggles with trying to find a full-time job in my field. Before and after graduating with my B.A. in Communications last May, I applied to God knows how many jobs. I organized the email address I mainly use (I used to use my student email when first starting out), and in just that email address I saw I applied to 511 jobs. 511 — it has to be just as much, if not more in my old one. So give or take, I’ve applied to 1000-1300 jobs since graduating, mostly in my field of study. Did I receive any offers aside from my current role part-time? Zip. Zero. None.

I might not be something right. I’ve been working in Human Resources for three years now in various departments within the group, and sought advice. I took– and continue to take–my co-workers’, superiors’, and mentors’ advice in like meditation, and applied and continue to apply their thoughts, advice, suggestions, etc. to my applications. They’re professionals who know what they’re doing; I’m a young professional just starting out. So why won’t my paisans in the HR teams at the companies I apply to give me a shot? Why won’t they even bring me in to interview before throwing my resume and cover letter in the deleted word of the Internet/Hiring system that is the modern day version of a dump?
The best part is when places do decide to bring me in for an interview, and after reject my candidency. I was asked once when seeking advice if it felt like myself and the interviewer were moving further and further as the meeting went on. “No,” I replied, “I wish it were as simple. It feels like we’re getting closer. It’s why it stings so much.” It must be the media and entertainment industries then, because I’ve had multiple recruiters I know and work with tell me that’s the strangest thing they’ve ever heard of. It’s strange alright; and I bare the brunt of that strangeness.

I have talent. Potential. Beauty. Worth. Both inside and out, I am more then just a resume, and I wish that would’ve been noticed in my cover letters by now. I use my cover letters to tell my story on one page. It’s my pitch; why I’m good for them, why they’re good for me, vice versa. I insert other job and interning skills I acquired and the fact I live close by (I want to work in NYC) help, too. I also show knowledge of the companies and how I make it personal. But does that help? No. Am I going anyway? Nah.

And after praying for a miracle and being delivered false hope from a place I discovered was a pyramid scheme, all I can do is ask God, what am I doing wrong? Why do I get passed up for jobs that are a dream come true but someone else with no personality will get just because mommy and daddy have a connection? I know everything happens for a reason, and there are times where I realize later on it’s good some things didn’t work out, but what about the ones I want in my heart most? This job/career rejection stings worse than any bee or man could ever dream. And it sucks. Boy it effing sucks.

What do I do? Do I just give up? Do I crawl under a hole and cry? Yes and more — like Audrey Hepburn after her fateful horse accident leading to a miscarriage, I move on. I get back up and keep trying. Keep trying till my heart and lungs give out. I write my heart out; apply my soul to these jobs and enter teleplay, screenwriting, creative writing, poetry, etc. contests to get myself out there. My indomibile will goes to show that you can make me fall, cause tears to flow down my eyes, but I will wipe them into your face and get back up like the Phoenix alive and better than ever. I may seem soft, but I am one tough cookie. For those who rejected and continue to reject me, like Bette Davis turning down the role of Mildred Pierce one day you’re all going to wake up and realize you missed out on one hell of a writer, one hell of an employee, and most of all, one hell of a woman.



12/16 Update

My apologizes for being MIA for awhile. A lot’s been going on, and I have a lot of thinking to do. The job, or “jobs” since they interviewed me for two positions, I interviewed for almost two weeks ago isn’t going to happen; I heard back, and I didn’t get either one. However, the second interview for the full time job in my old department was today. It went well, but I still have much to think about. A lot of opportunities are arising fast, and I must choose wisely. That being said, I applied to two dream jobs today, ones I’m keeping an eye out for. I’ve also decided to reach out to people I should’ve kept in contact with for certain places and to take a professor and colleague’s advice and begin cold calling companies for informational interviews. Winter is coming, and not the bad kind– the winter of discontent.

Cha-Cha-Ch-Changes– Professional Life

I chose this photo of the late and great David Bowie and the title of one of his many classics to sum up everything that’s going on. After tomorrow, I will no longer be working in Briarcliff. It’s strange, shocking, a welcome change, but bittersweet. It honestly didn’t hit me until I saw the midst of everyone packing today, once lively walls illuminated by colorful paintings, posters and awards now slain cream, dull and barren, ready for the new owners, who I pray treat the property with the tending loving care it rightfully deserves. As I saw my old department move, I saw what I’d essentially be going through tomorrow– goodbye. We’ll still be together, all the departments. I, for one, am much happier that I’ll be closer to my co-workers instead of my current spot, which put me with students, but I understand since it used to be the student and part-time area, and the tables turned where the students outweighed the remaining part-time. Not that there’s anything wrong with students, heck I was one 6-7 months ago and am debating on becoming one again, but I’m happy I get to be closer with my superiors and not having to go across the halls and the building.

Speaking of school and that full-time job that opened up in my old department, my former supervisor also interviewed me for the position today. It went very well, and he said I’d probably be one of the final candidates for the job, and would have one more interview with the department head. I felt, and feel, very confident and excited, the anxiety and at one point nausea which plagued me all week nervous on applying or not, and how everything would play out, just delaying me from seeing the positives in it all. I guess what made it harder is the fact that I absolutely love and appreciate my job now, so much so that it’s really going to break my heart a little bit whenever I leave, whether it’s for this position or another one in a few months, year, etc. As for the position in question, it’s a full-time job, a learning experience, a foot in a door and beginning to build a career, and it incorporates a key part of my plan– going back to school. I’ve narrowed my options down to two– education or publishing– and hope to narrow that down to one sometime in the new year. I never thought I’d seriously consider going back to get a master’s. Mostly because of financial issues, but also I thought I’d never need it. I never thought I’d have the need to go back until I realized how disappointed I was in how I was reeled into my undergraduate major with false hopes and promises. Don’t get me wrong; I’ll never regret the classes I’ve taken, the wonderful professors who taught and enlightened me, the education of my mind and thought. However, had I known how difficult it would be to become a writer in the television/film/media industry, I would’ve utilized my love of history and majored in that instead. Therefore, I made the decision that, whether I get this job or not, I will go back and get my master’s in 1-3 years time, and I’m pretty darn proud of that decision.

Also, speaking of interviews, I have another one on Monday, but for a marketing company. When it rains, it pours, and that’s with good things, too. Unlike from years and months ago, I become calm on the outside when getting overwhelmed and privately deal with the stress by focusing on the good. I find the stress goes down that way. I also try to put myself in other people’s shoes and empathize with the other side– what would I do if I were them? What would I want? How would I feel? These questions and many more are what we need to ask ourselves. Moreover, God forbid someone’s giving us a difficult time, instead of getting overworked and to the point of frustration, gently try to understand and offer the best help possible. Worse comes to worse, explain you can’t do anything for them unless they calm down, that way you can say you really did the best you could’ve.

No matter what these changes bring, as Mr. Jones, a.k.a “Bowie” put it, “time may change me, but I can’t change time.” Namase.

 

Daily Prompt: Anticipation

“I see you shiver with an-ti-ci-pation.”

  • Dr. Frank-N-Furter, The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Today, I was supposed to apply to more jobs and do tons of research. However, for the good of my health and well being, I’ve decided instead that it shall be a day of peace. I’m going to reach out to one place where it looks like I can climb up the ladder for what I went to school for, but with the except of that, I need a break.

I’ve been in my current position for nearly two months, and I couldn’t be happier. I’m not saying that because my co-workers and superiors know about this blog and may currently be reading this post, I mean it. I work with amazing people and have good relationships with my superiors, who see I’m a hard worker and I see that I’m finally getting rewarded for my years of dedication now that the right people are noticing. The only thing, however, that upsets me is that I can’t be part-time forever; I’m going to have to go full-time eventually, and nothing would make me happier than to stay in my current role and make the jump from part-time to full-time. Yet, I still have some thinking, reconciling myself with the fact that I should’ve majored in something else in college, debating whether or not I should go off to grad school, things of that nature. To make matters more confusing, I’ve had recruiters contact me recently. Some I was honest with about what I really wanted to do; they feigned interest and I never heard from them again. However, there was one I really liked, but they wanted my social security number, and I do not feel comfortable with that whatsoever. Actually guys, here’s a quick lesson: never give your social security, driver’s license, etc. to anyone unless it’s a job you’re already starting and is legitimate. Seriously, don’t. I was anxious yesterday, but asked a colleague and my career advisor what to do and they confirmed my gut not to say anything. So there you have it, on that matter, that is.

Another factor is that my former part-time job was posted as a full-time role, and there’s great desire for me to go for the role. It would be great to finally go full-time, have a steady salary where I don’t have to worry about losing pay because of holidays, being sick, etc. and also to get full tuition remission if I go for my masters. However, I’d lose the flexibility I have with part-time. Therefore, I’m at a crossroad. I could go for this or work part-time until either 1.) there’s a way for me to stay full-time doing what I’m currently doing, 2.) I find a full-time job for either human resources or what I went to school for, or 3.) I become a writer/actress/model and all my dreams come true. And it looks like just by typing that, I got my answer.

I was anticipating so much for the past several months, even when I took a break from applying after landing my current job, I was still on edge. Therefore, I need a break. This Thanksgiving holiday to clear my head, and focus on the good things. I have extensive HR and writing experience. Starting up this blog again and actually maintaining it is one of the greatest things to have happened to me, or better yet one of the greatest favors I’ve done for myself. I have several pilots, treatments, proposals and a screenplay to be proud of. My current novel is so good it’s surpassed my past ones and caused me to shelve things and ideas that were leading to dead ends. I have a roof over my head. I was able to buy an awesome car and my payments aren’t that bad. My dog is awesome. My family is good, and although my friends are few, their loyalty and love are worth more than a thousand. So therefore like my previous projects, anticipation you’re shelved for now. Off you go, and don’t come back until next week. Happy Thanksgiving week, everyone!

 

via Daily Prompt: Anticipation

The 7 Most Disrespectful Things Prospective Employers Do From a Candidate’s Point of View

Nothing takes away the excitement of going for a job more than gaining insights into your prospective employer’s true colors before a deal is even made. Having gone on numerous interviews with surprising results this past summer, I’ve encountered some situations where even my career councilor has said, “It’s actually great you didn’t get the job because I would never want to work for a company like that.” Here’s my list of what’s the worst things companies can do to you during the hiring process:

7.) Never Getting Back to You After the Interview

You hear back from the hiring manager, and are brought in for an interview. It looks like they loved you and are very interested. They tell you when they’ll get back to you by. You feel great. You send them a ‘thank you’ email as soon as you get home, along with following up with them at the appropriate time, if asked. Yet nothing; you never hear anything back. Ever. You agonize in job limbo furthermore, more tortured by the lingering questions of “what did I do wrong?” and “why don’t they have the decency to get back? even ‘no’ is better than this!” It plain out sucks.

You’d think this issue would be number 1, but this issue is a lot more common than you’d think. In fact, though it doesn’t feel that way, 9/10 times the employer never getting back to you isn’t because you did anything wrong. Some workplaces are so busy that with applicants and interviews that it’d take too much time to contact all the candidates back. Furthermore, sometimes complications arise with the position itself, and it may be delayed or done away with. I never had this happen to me until this year, and it’s the worst, but you can’t take it personal most of the time. However, if the employer asks you to follow up and you do, and they respond but don’t give you a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer, then that’s just plain rude. And yes, it’s happened to me. The response? “Thank you for sending this.” So unprofessional!

6.) Calling You in For an Interview Less Than 48-24 Hours

The only exception to this rule is if it’s a situation where the job needs to be filled ASAP. I’ve had this happen to me two times, and one was because of the exception, so it was perfectly alright. However, if you as an interviewer and employer email someone at 7:00 p.m. or later asking them to come in the following day and not giving them at least at few days notice, then you’re totally unprofessional and disrespectful of not only your job candidates, but their current jobs if they have any, too. One day is not enough time to call out to go for a 5-15 minute interview. Unless it’s the job of a lifetime and they’re going to give it to you on the spot, it’s not worth it. So unless it’s an emergency or the role needs to be filled ASAP and there’s not enough time, this spells rude with an R on Capital Hill.

5.) Having a Full Blown Conversation With Other People While the Interview is Supposed to be Going On

It’s common to have more than one person interview you or at least sit in on the interview. Most times, they’ll engage in small talk with each other and yourself. It’ll relieve some tension and make you feel comfortable. That’s totally normal. However, what’s not normal is if those people break out in dialogue over issues that have nothing to do with you to the point where you’re invisible. Then, they won’t even ask you about yourself, and you feel like you have to insert yourself in, but don’t want to be rude and they look at you the way the Plastics look down at everyone in Mean Girls. Like, why would you bring me in and waste my time hearing your mini workplace reality show? Sorry, that’s 50 shades of nope screw this.

4.) Claiming Flexibility When Actually Being Rude and Inconsiderate

It’s common for places to give you an interview time(s) that don’t work and you need to coordinate your schedule sand move things around together as a team. Interviewer and interviewee. Most times, hiring managers and interviewees will find common ground on another date and time if the original proposed one doesn’t work out. On the other hand, you have hiring managers who claim to be flexible, but then give you attitude if you need to do another day for a legitimate reason. For example, one place got back to be and did reason 6, which already is a bad sign. Then they asked me about another day that didn’t work, and I said I could try, but I had a doctor’s appointment and don’t want to rush anything and not make it in time. Also, God forbid I don’t feel well because those are eye tests the last thing I should do is hop on a train to Grand Central and start running around the city. Therefore, I asked a different day. Know what they said? They forced me to make Monday and said they’d “work around me,” that the other day “hurts me.” I’m sorry, I didn’t know this was more important than my health. So, I got back asking for a time, explaining I’d need time to get into the city and never heard anything back. There’s strikes 1,2 and 3, 3 I’ll get to later since it’s reason 2 on this list. So if this happens and they don’t get back, don’t sweat it. However, if they do get back later on, like the day before or the day of, too bad. Don’t be afraid to be discrete but also be professional, poised, and well-mannered about it. Just say, “I’m sorry, I did not receive a confirmation in times and have work related matters I need to attend to.” Simple as that.

3.) Attacking You and Ignoring You Over Job Description Details in the Midst of Trying to Schedule an Interview

This is not your fault– this is theirs. If someone isn’t qualified for the job, forget about bringing them in, don’t even look at them. I had this happen to me. I applied to a position and had the necessary experience except for one platform. However, it seemed like they overlooked that, and the hiring manager was coordinating bringing me in for an interview. It was weird; a date was set, but no definite time. It was supposed to be a Monday. The Friday before I get a nasty email saying, “I see you don’t have experience in…., this is correct? If so, why? What’s the reason?” So, I got back politely that while I didn’t have that platform experience, I was nevertheless a fast learner and very easy to train. I never heard from him ever again. Disappointing, but not overly upsetting since he also…

2.) Never Confirming an Interview Date and Time

…which is the cherry on top of the cake of ultimate insults and rudeness. It’s customary for the interviewer to suggest a date/time for the interviewee, the interviewee to say yes/no/confirm, and then the interviewer confirms back so both parties are set. Unfortunately, I’ve had this happen to me twice. Once was the time above, and another was before that. The interviewer reached out to me with a date and time that worked perfectly, and I told her it worked great. 3-4 days went by, and I didn’t hear anything back. I told my career advisor, asking her what I should do, and she was very angry. She said sometimes employers respond within 1-2 days, but 3-4 something is wrong. Long story short, it took having a third party (my career advisor) reach out to the hiring manager to basically force her to confirm the date and time. There are two best parts to this whole story. The first part is that she offered no apology for not getting back and said, “actually that doesn’t work anymore. Can you do….instead?” So, I had to take off work and rearrange my schedule to do so, but I was polite and said of course. That’s part one. Finally, part two to this messed up situation which leads to most disrespectful thing numero uno…

1.) Not Showing Up to Interview the Prospective Employee…

Yes, after all that, she did not show up. Bear in mind, life happens. People get sick, there’s work/family emergencies and, as dramatic as it sounds, people die. However, if someone just goes AWOL that’s another story. I showed up 10 minutes early, as an interviewee is supposed to, and she’s wasn’t there. A co-worker went off to get her, but after 3-5 minutes of searching, he said, “I’m not sure where she is right now, so I’ll just interview you instead.” I’m happy he did, he was a nice, professional and well-rounded man who knows what to do in weird situations, plus he did a great job interviewing me. But it still bothered me that my original interviewer never showed up. Which leads to honorable mention disrespectful reason part two to this reason…

…Along with Rejecting the Candidate and Pretending Like You Met Them

Yup, I have no words. When I saw, I was literally speechless. I asked my career advisor for advice, and she said to get back polite thanking her, but zing her with, “Hope to see and hear from you soon,” since I was at least told that if there were any other openings in the future that my resume was on file and they’d keep in touch. Never heard from them again, though I’d love to work for that company, just a different department and not with that woman. I feel bad for anyone who has her as a boss.

That’s it for this list, hope you enjoyed it! If you have any questions, comments, or interesting interview or prepping for interview experiences, feel free to share, get the word out and let everyone know. Maybe if we all get our stories out there, some hiring prospects can change for the good.